How To Heal A Broken Heart

Following are 3 ways to tell if you’re really over your ex-boyfriend. If you discover that you’re not totally over him and that your heart has been broken, then please allow the Scriptures following the mini-test to heal you and make you whole. Repeat them out loud to get them ingrained in your spirit to let the healing within begin today.

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If you’re guilty of any of the following then you may not truly be over your ex:

1. You still talk about him to your girlfriends, your mother, your sister, or anyone who has an ear to hear. Whether what you share about him is good or bad, if he’s still on your mouth, he’s still on your mind.

2. You consistently or even periodically check his Facebook page or other social networking sites for his latest update mainly to, as you tell yourself, “just check on him,” but really you do it to ‘read between the lines’ and see if he’s gotten a new girlfriend yet, or if he’s still thinking about you.

3. You often find yourself still daydreaming and meditating about good times with him and the fun times the two of you shared – while often conveniently not being able to recall all the bad times, which were the main reasons the two of you broke up in the first place. Remember, ya’ll broke up with each other for a reason.

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If you fall into any one of these categories with your ex, then you may not really be over him yet and your heart may still be broken.

No worries, though, because starting today you can choose to not talk about him anymore, not check his Facebook page anymore, and meditate on the future that God has for you which doesn’t include him – starting today you can choose to move on.

Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Also, here are more Scriptures to heal and mend a broken heart:

Psalms 73:26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Psalms 55:22 Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.

Psalms 107:20 He sent out his word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.

Psalms 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

1 Peter 2:24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.

Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com

Are You The Back Pocket Chick?

You always initiate communication – whether through a text message, Facebook message, email or phone call.He rarely communicates with you just to see how you’re doing, and when he does call it’s because he wants something or a favor from you.You text each other more than you physically talk to or see each other, or when you call him and leave him voice mails he responds with text messages only and rarely calls, especially not at night.You slack off a bit, but then “out of the blue” he sends you a text message, a “How are you?” Excited, you engage in the back and forth, but yet he still never asks to take you out on a date.

You feel you two have a true connection, and that when you first met him there was definitely something there as sparks flew – but for some reason he hasn’t taken any next steps to get to know you better on a more personal level.

If this describes your situation at all, then you may be the back pocket chick.

The back pocket chick is the girl on reserve, or on hold because either he’s already in a relationship or hasn’t completely made up his mind about you.

No worries though, if you’re interested in a guy and he hasn’t initiated any next steps, then it’s okay to leave it at the acquaintance or friendship level while continuing to go on with your life.

Leave the 2 hour long conversations and the late in the midnight hour encouragement from you for someone who really deserves it and who truly appreciates the value and the gift in you – not someone who is barely there when you need him and rarely responds when you call.

Don’t waste your time thinking about a guy who obviously isn’t thinking about you.

It’s fine to be cordial or respond when he communicates if that’s what you desire to do, but don’t put all your eggs in that basket or take yourself “off the market” because of someone who hasn’t made a decision about how he feels about you yet.
Don’t be the desperate back pocket chick who calls all the time or regularly asks him out, only for him to go along to entertain you and string you along on a road that obviously leads to no where.

The man of God who God has for you will come correct and there will be no second guessing.

God is not the author of confusion and you will be blessed with peace.
So, in the meantime, be grateful for any new friendships you develop along the way and continue to run your race while loving and valuing yourself enough to not sit by the phone and wait for any man to call in order to validate you.
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. 1 Corinthians 14:33
 
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. Psalm 139:14
Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com

4 Ways Singles Still Can Celebrate Sweetest Day

On the east coast (and even beyond from what I’ve heard) today folks are celebrating the romantic holiday – Sweetest Day. Like most romantic holidays, some singles may feel left out of the loop if they don’t have a boo to receive a box of chocolates from.

Well for today’s daily devotional – I’d like to share 4 ways singles can still celebrate Sweetest Day.

1. Be Sweet To Those Who Have Been Sweet To You.

Use this day as a way to say, “Thank you” to special people in your life who have blessed you, poured into you, celebrated you and not just tolerated you whether it’s your parents, mentors, or others you love and admire. Give them a nice card or something “Sweet” like a slice of chocolate cake to thank them for being sweet to you. Take it a step further and do something sweet not just someone who may not have been sweet to you, but you may have had disagreements with in the past and use this day as an opportunity to give them something sweet in order to say, “I’m sorry,” even if you weren’t in the wrong. (Romans 12:20; Romans 17:21)

2. Be Sweet to yourself.

Treat yourself to something sweet today whether in the form of a sweet treat, a mani pedi, or do some of your favorite things tonight whether it’s going out with friends or even staying home turning on your favorite music soaking in a candle lit bath topped with rose petals. Celebrate self-love today because you deserve it! (Mark 12:31)

3. Be Sweet to God – the ultimate Sweetie.

If you haven’t already, take a moment to say, “Thank you” to God – acknowledge Him for even the small things He does for you today even if it’s leading you to a good sales rack, giving you favor to receive a close parking spot, or even receiving favor that someone else allowed you to cut into a lane on a road (I know here in Detroit that requires special favor lol) Tell God “I love you” and do something sweet for Him because He is the lover of your soul and He loves you with an ever lasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3)

4. Listen to the following podcast featuring 5 Relationship Experts, Mainly Male Panel of both Married and Unmarried Men as we discuss Sex, Dating and Relationships! Use this as YOUR opportunity to get into the minds of men and obtain free, godly relationship advice – ask those questions that have been on your heart for a while that you never received the answer to.

Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14

Click the following link to hear it:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kimbrooks/2012/10/20/lets-talk-sex-dating-and-relationships-on-sweetest-day

Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com

How To Tell If It’s Time To End A Relationship

If you’re dating someone and God is telling you to end the relationship, I don’t care how long it’s been – whether it’s been 2 years, 2 months or 2 days, end it before it gets worse.
I personally don’t believe God will allow you in a relationship He has not called you to be in for more than a couple months, if that; the key is to continue to pray through the relationship while you’re in it so you can remain in a position to hear from God at all times instead of just following your heart (which oftentimes deceives Jeremiah 17:9), going with the flow and being led by the flesh, hoping he’ll one day change or just occupying time due to loneliness or boredom (been there before and in the end it’s not fun…or worth it)
Quite often we know up front, sometimes even before we decide to date the person that we shouldn’t do it.
We pick out certain “virtuous” qualities we like that we figure “must be God” while ignoring the other negative traits or personal issues that haven’t been dealt with (yes, men have issues, too) or emotional instabilities which may cause any hopeful future or healthy relationship with that person to become unforeseeable – yet, sometimes, we still. choose. to say. What happens when we disobey God and ignore His inner warning and red flags?
Things get worse.
Relationships I’ve been in where God specifically told me to end it yet I chose to continue oftentimes ended in a future ‘hell date,’ or in the other person getting on my nerves so much to a point where they would start to degrade and falsely accuse me that I just had to let ’em go.  Ugh.  All of that could have been avoided had I just obeyed and trusted God in the first place.
You may have been in a similar situation.

You may have spent all your quality time with someone or given yourself away to someone who, in the end, didn’t deserve it, or you may have made bad decisions with someone that has permanently changed your life.

But God – God is not a man that He should lie neither is He the Son of man that He should repent (Numbers 23:19)

God still has a future for you – He can turn mistakes of yesterday into a thing of the past and give you the tools and confidence you need to move on as long as you seek His face continually and keep your trust in Him.  (Proverbs 3:5)

No matter what has happened to you, Faithful is He that calleth you, and He will do it. (1 Thessalonians 5:24)

A relationship not ordained by God is actually wasting precious time that you could use to grow in your relationship with God, better yourself, enjoy life as a single or even allow you to meet someone who you may not have met because you were too busy spending all your time with Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right.

Thank God for His grace and mercy – now we know next time to not be led by the flesh and our own desires but to continue to be led by the Spirit in all things – including relationships.

 

When it comes to relationships, God always holds our best interest at heart.

 

He sees and knows our tomorrow and He won’t tell us to say, “No,” to something without knowing that His perfect will for our lives is on the way.
Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com