In the first chapter of my book, How To Date and

Stay Saved, I talk about the one relationship that

should be the foundation of every relationship 

thereafter – your relationship with God.

Before you start seriously dating someone, make
sure your relationship with God is so in tact that
the main man you never want to hurt in the
process is your Heavenly Father.

Some people get in relationships and make
their man their god.

They put his desires over God’s desires and find
themselves in compromising positions or at the
altar repenting every Sunday.

Though God often tries to direct and warn us, we
ignore Him and listen to and adhere to him
instead of Him.

A person who will place a man above God is not
ready to date.

I know, I know, there are many who date,
marry and keep their man’s desires at the head
instead of God’s, however the fruit of that is
often a marriage where God is not the true
head of the home.

God being the head of your life before you date
helps ensure that He will remain the head of
your life while you date which should guide
your decisions and behavior during the dating
process as you stay connected to the true vine
and pray through the relationship.

 I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.

 Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he 
taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, 
he purgeth it, that it may bring forth more fruit.

 Now ye are clean through the word which I have 
spoken unto you.

 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot 
bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no 
more can ye, except ye abide in me.

 I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in 
me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: 
for without me ye can do nothing.  John 15:1-5 


Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more.

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A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit