God desires to give you hope in your final outcome.
Just because a relationship may not have worked out the way you thought it should have, don’t get into condemnation or shame because God tells believers in Romans 8:1 that there is therefore now no condemnation to to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk
not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Anytime you miss it, which you may because no one is perfect, be sure and sincerely
repent before God, which means to not just apologize but to confess and turn away from
the sin, and God will honor your heart.
No matter what you may have gone through in the past, no matter who may have hurt or
disappointed you, and no matter how many mistakes you may have made, as long as you
repent before God He will clean your slate and reposition you as if you never got off
track in the first place.
The most important thing, as you go forward in your walk with Christ, is that you forgive
yourself and press on.
Sometimes, as believers, we beat ourselves up because we made a mistake, or because we
allowed our burning desire for a mate to lead us into the arms of someone who may be
saved, yet not for real, but know that if God says that as far as the east is from the
west that He has forgiven your sins, then who are you not to forgive yourself?
Don’t listen to the enemy’s lies when he reminds you of your past mistakes and throws
images in your mind of past rendezvous with the “wrong boos.” The enemy’s goal is to
steal, kill, and destroy, whether that means stealing your joy, or stealing your peace of
So as you continue in God’s presence, and as you ask God to show you what you should learn from past relationships, allow Him to give you the oil of joy for mourning.
Don’t get stuck in a rut about the past; speak to God about it, forget it, and press on.
The apostle Paul put it best when he said, in Philippians 3:13, “…this one thing I do,
forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are
before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”
Know that God has a divine plan and purpose for you, and that He wants to fulfill it, as
long as you keep your mind stayed on Him, forget the past, and press on.
Recommended Reading: eBook, The Little Black Survival Book for Single Saints (chapter