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As single believers, how many times do you hear this: “Don’t worry, honey, God will bless
you with your mate real soon. Just keep waiting on the Lord.” And then you nod, smile
and say, “Thank you, I receive that,” but on the inside you’re boiling thinking,
“I’ve been ‘waiting on the Lord for eleven years now and I’m tired of waiting
on the Lord!” and for some reason it seems as if the main ones encouraging singles
to keep ‘waiting on the Lord,’ are already married, so then you think, “it’s easy
for you to say that, you married your high school sweetheart and been having sex on
the regular for decades, but when I want it I can’t get it because I’m still ‘waiting
on the Lord.’ So then you leave the room thinking, “God, why are you moving so slowly?
Where is my mate?” and then you begin to meditate on the fact that you’re so tired of
being alone like Al Green.

Then you think back to past relationships, or even prospects you turned down, and you
think, “did I miss God somewhere?” or you wonder if you could just go back five years
ago and say, ‘yes’ to that person you initially said ‘no’ to just because you didn’t
like the hairy mole inside his left ear.

Well one thing we can’t do is go back in time, but one thing we can do is maximize
the moment and stay encouraged while we wait. How do I do that? you might ask – well
I’m glad you asked me :0)

I was reading a particular Scripture the other day and a particular word jumped out at
me. I’ve always believed that as Christians, we are all running in this race called
life, with the ultimate prize being obtaining the high calling of God in Christ Jesus,
which means being all whom God has called us to be in Him, and eventually transitioning
our spirits from inside our bodies to heaven to be forever with the Lord (thank God that
as Christians we will never see death – glory to God Hallelujah! John 8:51).

Well, I’ve always known I was running in a race, but I never realized that I have a
running partner. And, no, I’m not going to say it’s God (even though He is on the
inside giving you the power to run the race with His grace) however this particular
running mate I’m speaking about is patience.

Hebrews 12:1 states:

Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us
lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with
patience the race that is set before us,

The Word of God says here, “…let us run with patience,” so as we’re running our
Christian race, we have to make sure patience is running right beside us.

This Scripture also admonishes us to lay aside every weight. A weight is something that
wears you down, or slows down your race. It can be a heavy load, or a burden –
something that gets you off the focus of your race and off Jesus, but, instead has you
focused more on the burden.

Examples of “weights” can be worry, doubt, fear, observing the wind or circumstance
instead of keeping your eyes on the promise, taking on a care or anxiety instead of
casting your care on Jesus, or walking by sight instead of walking by faith.

Hebrews 12:1 also speaks about the sin which easily besets us, which is also a weight.
Sex outside of marriage slows down your race and, not only that, takes you totally off
course. Not loving your neighbor or coveting another man’s wife are also sins and
weights which can take you off the course of your Christian race and lead you down a
path of destruction.

Once we lay aside the sins and the weights, and grab a hold of patience as our running
partner, then we can run our race with cheerful or hopeful endurance or constancy,
which is the concordance definition of the word, patience.

And while you run, be sure and take your water, which is necessary for any race so that
you can endure without passing out, which for the believer is the Word of God.

Daily, consistent doses of the Word of God will give you the fuel to run your race with
the power of God’s grace, and will keep His patience, which resides in the pit of your
heart, active and alive in you as you run this race called life.

Run at a steady pace now, no need to sprint, and as you’re running, be sure to look
around, enjoy the sunshine and have fun during this season of your life, because the
race is not given to the swift, but to him who can endure ’til the end.

Stay encouraged and call a fellow single friend today and let him or her know that you
appreciate them during this season of waiting with cheerful endurance in the Lord.

Recommended Reading:   (especially
the Chapter on overcoming Impatience)

Published by Kim Brooks www.KimOnTheWeb.com

A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit www.KimOnTheWeb.com

5 replies on “I’m Tired of Waiting on the Lord!”

  1. Thank you for your article. I know others stated that it wasn’t encouraging, but I found that it was for me. I do understand their frustration, though, as I have felt that same way about other people’s blog posts on singleness – but not so with yours. I’m not sUpEr HaPpY about being single now, but I do feel like I can approach my pain and discouragement differently regarding it.

    Just for background, I’m in my early 30s, never been in a relationship, virgin, never kissed anyone (post-puberty), and have been trusting God for a spouse for over 10 years. 99.9% of men that approach me are unbelievers; and many people are just as confused as I am as to why I am (and have always been) single. I don’t even have the chance to be “picky” as my main prerequisite is faith in Christ and as mentioned previously, 99.9% of suitors lack that. It’s not easy. Hormones aside, it’s especially difficult not having experienced *anything* and constantly encountering people who did their own thing (i.e., disregarded Biblical morals and/or are non-believers) who have obtained the gift of marriage and/or children…albeit, some are unhappily married, but others will tell you they are loving it. God bless them. Hope he blesses me in that manner one day, but until then, I guess I’ll have to run with patience and hand over this burdensome anxiety. I honestly hate it at times, but what can you do? Not to be morbid, but this life will eventually end and eternity awaits.

  2. I agree with Mike. I am almost 40 and still waiting on the Lord. I have now been waiting for 12 years. It doesn’t feel very encouraging especially of a woman at my age who longs to appreciate a godly husband and children in my younger years. I have my “pity parties” because it’s the only way to let the load of my emotions come out. All this waiting was also the cause for causing my anxiety for which I have to take medication for. I constantly pray to God to take this desire away from me if it’s not His will. If it’s His will, I ask Him to not delay further. I have even prayed boldly where I have asked Him to do what He must so my godly husband and I don’t delay in meeting soon. I’m sorry but at my age, your article is not encouraging. The fact that some of us have waited for more than 10 years may lead us have fear of being alone for the rest of our lives. 🙁

  3. I’m a 23 year old Christian male and been waiting on a wife from God for very long time, I’m sick and tired of feeling like everyone I know is having sex except me, I know that sex is not everything in married but it is very important as it is important to God. Through life ive learned that doing things Gods way is better than my way. 4 years ago I’ve received a message from God stating that my wife would be of God’s choosing not mines and so here I am today still waiting for her. I believe God and who He sent to give me the messege coming from a prophetess. My wife is completely coming soon because God never fails.

  4. sorry, that’s NOT encouraging! Tell that to someone in their 40s on up! Telling someone to be patient who all they do is be patient is retarded! Sorry but I’ve heard this nonsense before. I’m 47 and still waiting on God.. for what?? tisk!

  5. I love it! You are doing a great thing by waiting on the Lord. I have been waiting patiently for God to send the right partner for me who is my husband for years, and I have been abstaining too. Its not easy, but I know it will be worth it. Isaiah 40:31 says it very well. May God bless you dear, and the husband is coming soon.

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