Burnt Toast

I hate burnt toast.  I prefer my toast on the lighter side.  I recently got a new toaster, and this morning I made some toast and got to working on something else so much so that by the time it popped up it was super dark.  I burnt the toast.  So I grabbed another piece, placed it inside and got to working on something else again.  I forgot all about the toast next thing I know I hear “pop” and as soon as that happened I knew what that meant..I went to check it and sure enough, I burnt the toast again.  So now I’m frustrated, but I’m actually more mad at myself for doing the same thing twice, making the same mistake twice, and expecting a different result.  So this time, when I put the third piece of wheat bread in the toaster, I changed the setting on the toaster from 4 to 2 and I stood by it until it popped up ready and much lighter. The lesson was learned so now I am able to butter a nice piece of toast to go along with my grits.

I said all this to say, how many times, in relationships, do we do the same thing, date the same type of man, follow the flesh instead of the Spirit, make the same mistakes, end up crying out to God about the same thing but just a different guy – while expecting different results.  Oftentimes, it’s not always the man who has to change, sometimes we gotta change.  If we’re not having success with the way we approach relationships or our behavior within the relationships, then we have to change it in order to expect a different result.

I often say, don’t just come out of a relationship, learn out of a relationship.  For every relationship that didn’t work out, take enough time out to sit back and examine what went on and you’ll learn so much about yourself, what you like and what you will not tolerate, and you’ll also, hopefully learn from the mistakes you made so that you won’t make the same mistake again.

Don’t be like me and keep burning the toast over and over again.  Thankfully, even when we do make the same mistake more than once, God is there to lift us up, brush us off and make us brand new again so that the next time we’ll get it right.

Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?  2 Corinthians 13:5

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  1 John 2:1

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Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com

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A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit www.KimOnTheWeb.com