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We all know these women – they settle for relationships where they’re being abused physically or verbally by men who don’t respect them or their feelings, yet they still choose to stay in the relationship.  Some of us may even admit that this woman was us at one point.  Today I’m led to share 10 reasons I believe women settle for less than God’s best for them in relationships.  Feel free to add your input as well.

in no particular order of importance (they’re ALL important

1.  Fear that there’s no one better out there for them

2.  Fear that no one else would want them

3.  Lack of self-worth and self-love

4.  Lack of realizing how much God loves them and because of this they deserve to be treated like royalty.

5.  Driven by life’s desires (i.e. desire to be married by a certain age, have kids by a certain age) and if this doesn’t work out some women feel the may miss their opportunity to live their familial dreams

6.  Lack of knowing what true love should look like (i.e. lack of examples of godly, successful relationships or lack of internalizing 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 )

7.  Believing the LIE of the good man shortage, perpetuated by the media (how many video clips on the ‘single black woman’s struggle to find a man’ do we have to watch???)

8.  Poor self-confidence and poor sself-esteem

9.  Fear of being alone

10.  Just plain ‘ole FEAR (fear of making the wrong decision, fear of never falling in love again, and on and on and on…)

But thanks be to GOD, for He has not given us a spirit of FEAR, but that of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7) , so we bind fear today in Jesus’ Name!

More relationship/dating advice and encouragement for Christian singles found on http://www.kimontheweb.com/

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Watch Video Webisode 3 as Kim talks about Christian Dating and due seasons

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The purpose of Christian dating as described in my new book, How to Date and Stay Saved, is to discover, through prayer, the leading of the Holy Spirit, and through gathering information whether or not the person you are consistently and exclusively dating has the potential to be your spouse.

One of the ways you can discover if the person you’re dating could be your spouse is by gathering information – or data.

When you think of the word dating I want to encourage you to think of the word, data.

A series of dates should consist of gathering as much information about these 3 things:

-Your date’s Past
-Your date’s Present
-Your date’s Future

You want to take the necessary time to find out about all these things while pursuing friendship before romance so you can keep a level head while deciding if this person you’re consistently dating is someone you would like to continue dating.

So think Dating, Data…

…collecting data to determine your destiny, or whether or not the two of you have a future together.

But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. 1 Corinthian 2:9

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