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Change Gon’ Come

Most people don’t like change.

Whether it’s changing from having a job, to not having
a job, being married, to divorced and now single again,
suffering the loss of a loved one, or even breaking up
from a relationship when you just knew he or she was,
“The One.”

Change is inevitable.

Some things in life we can’t control.

We can’t control other people.

We can’t control everything that happens in life.

But what we can control is how we respond to the change.

As a believer, at all times no matter the change, you must
believe that all things work together for good for you
because you love God and are called according to His
purpose (Romans 8:28)

As long as you’re operating in the will of God and doing what
you’re supposed to do, or shall I say what you’re called to do,
then there are no worries when it comes to the change.

Don’t allow change to become an opportunity for the enemy
to wreak havoc on your mind by placing all kinds of negative
thoughts in it then you react out of fear and end up making
the same mistakes over and over again.

Instead, use change as an opportunity to draw closer to your
Heavenly Father, receive instructions from Him, or simply rest
in Him and His word while allowing God to work things out for
your good.

Either way, you’re going to be okay, in spite of the change.

Like the song says, “Change gon’ come,” regardless, what’s
important is how you respond to it and whether or not you
embrace it.

We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their
labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan]
for good to and for those who love God and are called
according to [His] design and purpose.
Romans 8:28 Amplified Bible

…we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love
for God is worked into something good.
Romans 8:28b Message Bible

Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more.
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Is Shacking in the Bible?

The term, “shacking,” has been used for decades, and it still regains a big debate within the church, especially among Christian singles and more recently mentioned on the new reality show, the as Deitrick Haddon spoke at dinner with Bishop Ron Gibson regarding him and his fiance’ Dominique.

While most agree that sex before marriage, or fornication, is sin, the Bible actually does specifically mention, or answers the questions: “Is shacking a sin?” and “Is it a sin to shack up?”

  1 Corinthians 7:1 states, Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

The word, touch, in this passage of Scripture is translated from the Greek word, haptomai, which means of carnal intercourse with a woman or cohabitation.
Also, the Amplified Bible puts 1 Corinthians 7:1 this way:
Now as to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well [and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome] for a man not to touch a woman [to cohabit with her] but to remain unmarried.
So, in essence, to cohabit means to live together, or… to shack…so…sorry, though many may have tried to justify shackin’ up as “Okay as long as we’re actually not doing it” (when, if you were really honest with yourself you would know that generally those who live together sleep together and are having sex) it’s not acceptable in the sight of God according to His Word.
God places expectations on us to protect us.
Scripture reminds us with the question: Can a man take fire to his bosom and not be burned? (Proverbs 26:7) A man (or woman for that matter) who lives with and sees regularly the person he or she is physically and spiritually attracted to is prone to slip up and have sex. So instead of continuously having sex on Saturday night only to repent at the altar at church on Sunday morning, instead you can walk in freedom by avoiding compromising situations or by avoiding placing yourself in a situation where the flesh can have its way at any time.
Besides, it’s more honorable for both God’s son and daughter to do it the right way and date in public as much as possible to encourage dialogue and collect data to get to know each so you can discover, through prayer, and through the leading of the Holy Spirit, whether or not the person you are consistently and exclusively dating has the potential to be your spouse.
So instead of trying to look for loop holes or ways to walk on that thin tight rope without falling off, let’s continue in God’s will and follow God’s way which only leads to peace, true happiness, healing and lifelong love the way God intended.

Feel free to post your comments below, I’d love to read your thoughts on the matter.

Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more.
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The Movie Baggage Claim Review

baggageclaimposterSo last night I went to see the movie Baggage Claim which is about a single lady just shy of 30 who attempts to find love in the friendly skies within 30 days so she can beat her younger sister to the altar.

I knew who the main protagonist’s character, Montana Moore, would end up shortly after the movie began.  I laughed at some spots – the funniest was Tia Mowry’s character as the crazy ex.  The movie contained a lot of the elements of your classic romantic comedy – the gay male friend who wants more than anything for his best gal pal to be happy and find love; the loose, sex-crazed girlfriend filled with bad, misleading advice, and the voice of reason who, in this case, was William Wright and ultimately Montana herself.

In spite of the somewhat predictable outcome (that did have a twist in the middle which I appreciated) I greatly enjoyed the movie’s theme:  The magic is not in getting married; it’s in staying married. 

It’s better to marry for love in God’s timing instead of for superficial reasons such as because one’s biological clock is ticking or because of a desire to please others including pressuring parents, or because of a desire to beat someone in a race, such as the race to the altar.

It’s better to wait on the man of God whom God has for you and to have faith and trust in the Lord while waiting; in doing so you may discover your “Mr. Right” may have been there all along.

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