Some singles believe their life is lacking or incomplete
because of the absence of a spouse.
Some may feel God has given them bountiful blessings
in some areas, but when it comes to blessing them with
their mate, God has somehow forgotten or forsaken them.
For this reason, many singles respond hastily by “doing it
themselves” and going out and getting somebody,
anybody, just to say they have someone to call their
And once they get that coveted engagement ring,
they’re ready to run out and tell the world, “Look what
the LORD has done!”
Single believers must realize that your life is complete, right
now, even in the absence of a mate.
Colossians 2:10 states, And ye are complete in him, which is
the head of all principality and power: The him this passage of
Scripture is referring to is Jesus. Notice that it says you are
complete in him, and not just with him.
There is a difference.
In Him you live, move, and have your being. In Him, and in His
presence, is the fullness of joy.
The New Living Translation of Colossians 2:10 reads, So you also
are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over
every ruler and authority.
To be complete because of a union with Christ means to be one
Your heart must be one with God before it can ever be one
with another man.
To be one with Christ means to become more like Him every day.
It means to think like He thinks, speak like He speaks, love what
He loves, and hate what He hates.
This is why it is so important to read the Word of God daily,
because the more you deposit His Word into your spirit, and
the more you speak the words that He speaks in His Word, the
more you become more like Him, and the more you become
one with Him.
You ever notice how a happily married couple who has been married
several years start finishing each others sentences, dressing alike,
and sometimes even looking alike as they begin to look more like
brother and sister rather than husband and wife? It is because that
as they have gotten to know each other, over the years, they have
become more one with each other. Sure, on the day they got married they
became one as they entered a covenant relationship according to God,
however that oneness became more evident and clear to all as they
interact with one another and come to know each other even more
throughout the years.
It can be the same way with a believer.
Once a person gets saved according to Romans 10:8-10, they become
a new creature in Christ Jesus. But he or she has to develop his or
her relationship with God daily in order to grow spiritually, and become
more one with Him. When it comes to the things of God, you’re
either growing spiritually, or decreasing spiritually -there is no
A lot of times feelings of loneliness, impatience, or fear come from
not spending enough time reading, meditating and believing
God’s Word, praying, worshipping and praising God, and not
spending enough quality time with Him.
Once you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior into your heart,
your heart belongs to Him.
Once Jesus knocked on the door of your heart and you decided to let
Him in, His Spirit, His Love, His Joy, His Peace, His Happiness,
His Completeness, and His Fullness took up residency in you.
You are not incomplete because you don’t have a man.
You are complete because you HAVE a man, and His Name is Jesus!
He loves you so much.
He wants you to call on Him in your time of need.
He’ll never miss you when you’re away, because wherever you go,
He is always right there, with you and in you, holding your right hand.
He loves you so much that He even watches you while you sleep, and
He has His angels surrounding you 24/7, keeping and protecting you
from harm’s way.
It is time for us, single believers, to walk in true contentment.
The Apostle Paul states in Philippians 4:11, Not that I speak
in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am,
therewith to be content.
It’s a learning and ongoing process, and it starts with a decision.
Speak contentment over yourself -daily if you have to.
Say out loud, right now, “I’m single, I’m content, and I’m complete
Make a daily decision to be and remain content by consistently
abiding in His Word, and by becoming more one with Him each day.
Kim Brooks, author of bestselling novels, She That Findeth, He\'s Fine...But is He Saved? and more. www.kimontheweb.com
A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit www.KimOnTheWeb.com