It is possible to let someone know you love him or her without having sex. The following are 5 ways to prove love without sex, or 5 ways to intimacy without sex:
1. Verbally Sharing Your Dreams, Desires and Goals
– dreams that only a few, if any, know about. The word, “intimacy” broken down can be “into – me – see” so it means allowing the person you’re dating to see “into” your mind, “into” your soul, and “into” your heart. Hence, true intimacy without sex.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Proverbs 31:11
2. Small Acts of Kindness
Doing nice, thoughtful things for one another such as bringing him lunch on the job, giving her a ride to church if her car is in the shop and other consistent small acts of kindness lets the other person know that you truly care for them…being actively engaged in supporting each other’s dreams says, “I love you.”
And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. Luke 6:31
3. Love with Your Words
Speaks words of life and encouragement over one another. There’s already enough negativity in the world, be each other’s rock by offering uplifting encouraging words that build up rather than bury the person you love. Words of affirmation such as compliments and encouragement, communicate love. Allow your words to be sweet as a honeycomb.
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones. Proverbs 16:24
4. Give Each Other Thoughtful Gifts
For example, if a man knows his woman is studying to be a fashion designer and he blesses her with a gift subscription to a popular designer magazine, though it may have only cost him $20 it was the thought that counts and she will appreciate the fact that he pays attention to details about her and supports her interests and dreams.
Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom… Luke 6:38
5. Spend Quality Time Together
The more time you spend with someone, the more you not only get to know them for who they really are but the more you’re proving that they are truly a priority in your life. Whether it’s being there during the loss or transition of a loved one, accompanying graduations, Awards banquets, weddings and being together on holidays – seeing each other every weekend or every other weekend instead of only once a month – all communicate love – without sex.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27:17
…This is my beloved, and this is my friend… Song of Solomon 5:16
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A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit www.KimOnTheWeb.com