1. He may be fine, but make sure that man is saved!
Single Christian women should make sure that their future spouse be Christian as well because God admonishes believers to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers according to II Corinthians 6:14. You want to be in a relationship with someone who shares the
same value system and beliefs as you do. In doing so, you create harmony in the relationship, and operate in God’s perfect will for your life. Also, according to Amos 3:3, it is better for two people who are in agreement to walk together.
2. He may be saved, but make sure that man is for real!
Nowadays, it is not enough to make sure someone confesses Jesus Christ as his
personal Lord and Savior according to Romans 10:8-10. You want to also make sure his
lifestyle lines up with his faith confession, and that He fears God by not
desiring to break God’s heart -which happens when we disobey His Word and His will.
Also, how can a man love you like Christ loves the church if he doesn’t know how to
truly love God? A man who fears God, or reverences and respects God so much that he
has surrendered his own will to God’s will, proves that he sincerely loves the Lord,
and love must be vertical first, before it can ever be horizontal.
3. Make sure he has a vision, and knows his purpose.
The Word of God in Habakuk 2:2 commands us to write the vision and make it plain.
You want a future mate who has a vision and knows his purpose in life. Men are called
to be leaders in the relationship and in the home, and a man who doesn’t know his
purpose will be leading his future intended down a path that leads to no where.
When a man and a woman both know their purpose they can better envision a future
together and can see how they can fit into one another’s lives.
4. Make sure he loves people and wins souls.
Unfortunately, there are some who call themselves Christians yet do not love people.
Make sure your future spouse is not one of these persons. God’s second commandment to
Christians is to love their neighbors as themselves, and the best way to show that love
is to tell someone else about Jesus Christ. The same way that God so loved the world
that He gave His only begotten Son is the same way, ladies, you should want to make
sure your future spouse loves people so much that he willingly shares his testimony
and witnesses to someone else. The Word of God, in Psalm 107:2 says, Let the redeemed
of the Lord, say so, so your future mate should not be ashamed to tell it!
5. Makes sure that pleasing God is his number one priority.
God is pleased when we, His children, obey His Word (John 14:15). For example, He is
pleased when we honor our parents (Eph. 6:1), when we tithe to our local church
(Mal. 3:10, Heb. 2:4), when we love one another (1 John 4:7), and when we esteem others
higher than ourselves (Phil. 2:3). So it is important now, ladies, to make sure that your
future spouse makes pleasing God his #1 priority, because in doing so it shows that he has
the potential to love you the same way that Christ loved the church. This is not to say
that he’ll be perfect and will never make a mistake, the key is to make sure his heart
is right towards God and towards you.
*Please note: Out of the 5 things listed, woman of God, it is important that you, also,
possess the 5 characteristics included on this list. That way you both can be an extreme
blessing to one another in your relationship.
A refreshing voice for today’s Christian single, Kim Brooks is the Award-winning, National Bestselling author of novel, He's Fine...But is He Saved? its sequel and her latest novel, She That Findeth - an Atria/Simon & Schuster release. As a licensed minister, she is also the author of several self-help books and eBooks including, How To Date and Stay Saved and Singles, Overcome! A former guest columnist for Gospel Today and with appearances on The Word Network and in EBONY Magazine, Kim Brooks shares, through the Word of God, how it is possible to live an exciting, purpose-driven, drama-free abstinent until marriage lifestyle in the perfect will of God. Subscribe to her free daily devotional for singles, which reaches thousands globally, and for more information about her books and booking visit www.KimOnTheWeb.com